Happy post-Thanksgiving to my Canadian friends! And a pre-happy Thanksgiving to my American friends!
For many Thanksgiving is a grand family event. Oh the food! Turkey, ham, dressing, mashed potatoes, and on and on the list can go!
My family gathered around the table this Thanksgiving and yet it was quite a feat to get everything ready at the same time, while everyone gathered in the kitchen, and the potatoes boil over!
I never have been “Susy Homemaker”! Especially in the kitchen! “Burnt offerings” is the usual fare. So, you can imagine that chaos ensued!
Calming the Chaos
Regardless if it is the juggling of Thanksgiving dinner and relatives, or managing the chaos of everyday life as a busy entrepreneur, we can at times feel fragmented, anxious, and lose our confidence and belief in ourselves.
I shared a number of techniques last week to boost your belief and confidence and here is one more I love that helps me to feel assured, powerful, and able to leap tall buildings, well at least get through my to do list!
The “Super Hero Pose”NeuroMindSHIFT™
I don’t know if you have watched Grey’s Anatomy, but in the series, Dr. Amelia Shepherd, a neurosurgeon, stands with her hands on her hips like a “Super Hero” before she goes into a big surgery.
This may seem silly but standing this way, with your hands on your hips, your chest slightly puffed out, chin up, and your feet shoulder width apart does make you feel confident, strong, and powerful.
In 2012, Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy gave a now famous TED talk on the benefits of “power poses” or changing your body language in ways that can make you feel more confident.
In her book, “Presence”, Cuddy states that power-posing can boost your confidence more effectivelythan some of the traditional confidence boosting exercises we have been used to, like telling yourself how great you are.
Cuddy tells us that our attitude, our feelings of confidence, power, and capability often follows from our behaviours, rather than the other way around.
That means that the “Super Hero Pose”, or “Power Pose” as Cuddy refers to it, makes you feel more confident, faster and simpler than shouting, “I’m awesome!”, that requires a major shift in attitude, which most of us know isn’t so easy to make.
Cuddy calls this power-posing a “body-mind nudge.” This nudge she states allows you to skip over the psychological stumbling blocks, like trying to believe you are awesome and confident, when you clearly don’t believe that at all! At least in that moment!
She states: “Body-mind approaches such as power posing rely on the body, which has a more primitive and direct link to the mind, to tell you you’re confident.”
Cuddy also says that adopting the “Super Hero Pose” changes the way other people see you too, which in turn reinforces your confident behavior.
“When our body language is confident and open,” she writes, “other people respond in kind, unconsciously reinforcing not only their perception of us but also our perception of ourselves.”
So Strike A Pose!
Try it! Every morning when you get out of bed, do the Super Hero Pose as you grab your coffee and do your morning APB (Gain Awareness, Pause, and Breathe).
Smile, breathe deeply and think of how great your day is going to be. Think of one thing you are looking forward to doing, or visualize a positive outcome in your day.
Do this throughout your day before a meeting, or a difficult call, or before meeting with your client. It will boost your confidence, improve your performance, and positively affect your interaction with others.
Hey, it even improved my cooking!
By doing the “Super Hero Pose” you will boost how you feel and change your presence, to positively influence your outcomes!
Until next time remember, there is an absolute greatness within you! Strike the “Super Hero Pose”, take a few deep breaths, and connect to that strength that comes from Creating Harmony, and Power, from Within!
All the B.E.S.T.* and blessings, Sharon
(Belief, Emotion, Sensation, Thought)