Recently I have had a hard time taking action. I lack the confidence in my decisions and because of this I hesitate.
Part of the problem is that there are so many decisions to be made that affect so many people. When life, love, and money are on the line, a simple decision isn’t always clear.
Have you ever felt this way?
I inherently know that the very first thing I need to do is to get back to believing in myself.
I know fighting with myself, berating myself, becoming angry with myself for where I am right now is not helpful. It only floods my body with negative emotions and brings me further down.
I don’t know if this happens to you or not, but I find I can be caring, compassionate, and supportive of others, but I am hard on myself.
Yet I know I need to be as compassionate with myself, give myself a break, and forgive myself for mistakes I have made as I would be for others.
We have all made mistakes! This is what it is like to be human! But sometimes it doesn’t always feel easy to brush yourself off, pull up your boot straps, and carry on.
Here are 4 simple NeuroMindSHIFT™ tips and techniques to develop a belief in yourself and in alignment with your dreams, your goals, and your deeper purpose.
- Live now, in the present moment, with acceptance and approval of who you are in this moment.
Deepen your belief and trust in yourself. All the courage, power, wisdom and confidence is already within you. You just need to access it. Whether it is through seeing yourself in the future giving yourself sound advice (see below), or if you access this through meditation, or journaling.
- Think about what you have accomplished in the past. What has worked before? How have you been successful in the past? When was a time you felt awesome? It’s easy to think of the times things that we have failed at, that didn’t work out, that caused challenges and set-backs, because our mind predominantly goes to the negative thoughts. So, it is important to consistently think of your successes every day, or every hour if you are really feeling down. Write down your successes and how it happened. What it felt like. And bring all of your senses into this. This will help to re-sculpt the brain, and your belief, that you are awesome, that you rock, and bring positive emotions on line which will change the way you see yourself as you consistently remind yourself of your successes.
- Another way to boost belief in achieving your goals is to see yourself as your Future Mentor. Steve Lowell shared this with me from “Playing Big”. Imagine that you have an inner mentor who is a wise woman or wise man. Create a vision of yourself 20 years from now. What you look like, feel like, where you live, how you speak, who is there, and who you envision yourself to be. This person has been through everything you are about to go through and has all the wisdom and experience that you need to make the right decisions and to do everything you need to do in your life right now to avoid making big mistakes because this man/woman has done it all. Use this when you have a hard time controlling your thinking or you have to make a decision on something. Find a quiet space and consult your inner mentor and talk to yourself 20 years from now. Actually see yourself walking up to the door and knocking on the door and your inner mentor, who is you 20 years from now, opens the door. Walk in, and open a couple of cold beverages and chat. Ask the questions that are before you now and listen from your inner wisdom, the still quiet voice within, for the answers. I think you’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get from your inner mentor and thank her almost every day for that inspiration, direction, and decisions. This will also help you to take control of your thinking and create inner peace, mental fortitude, and a plan of action aligned with my deeper purpose.
- Have faith. Faith is equivalent of hope, optimism and belief that a positive future awaits us. Faith can be defined as the ability to trust our beliefs, even when we have no proof that such beliefs are accurate or true.
Viktor Frankl, an imprisoned Nazi Prisoner in a death camp until the end of WWII, said that the single most important things that kept a survivor alive was faith.
Even though everything seems contrary – you will not believe it when you see it – you will see it when you believe it.
I have a beautiful bracelet that my family gave me that is from Hebrews 1:11. I wear it all the time to remind myself that “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of that which we do not see”
Listen to the song by Whitney Houston & Mariah Carey – When you Believe. It’s a beautiful reminder that when we believe, truly believe, there can be miracles. Here are a couple of versus to uplift you!
Now we are not afraid
Although we know there’s much to fear
We were moving mountains
Long before we knew we could
There can be miracles
When you believe
Though hope is frail
It’s hard to kill
Who knows what miracles
You can achieve
When you believe somehow you will
You will when you believe.
There is a greatness that lies within you! Believe in yourself and the miracles you create every day!
All the B.E.S.T. and many blessings,
*(Belief, Emotion, Sensation, Thoughts)