Pause to Reconnect
My favourite time of the day after my accident was when my girls, Megan and Mikayla, would get off the bus at night. We would stand around the kitchen counter and they’d share their day. Mikayla would have us in stitches laughing about some crazy thing that happened in her day.
Occasionally both girls would share stories of helping someone who had been bullied, pushed or teased. Unfortunately often it was girls who would get in the fight and even physically hurt each other.
I’m always shocked by this . Megan, Mikayla, and I have had many conversations about the movie “Mean Girls” and the reality of this in daily life.
In the movie rather than supporting each other the girls attack each other over jealousy, or fear, or whatever the context for each girl, alienating is emphasized
Women Unite to Vote
To explain why women should support each other I often remind my girls that women did not have the right to votethroughout Canada until 1969. Although many Canadian women won the right to vote in 1918, it was until 1969 before all Canadian women obtained the right.
I say this because I want them to know that it was women working together, while many of the men were overseas because of the war, that gained women that right.
The women held families together, and took over in the factories and offices, and working in voluntary organizations to support the war effort that bolstered the women’s suffrage movements that had existed since the 1870s.
It became obvious that women were holding the hearth and business together that emphasized that they could not be kept out of political life any longer.
Working together they were able to unite, support each other, and changed the lives of women forever. This is something I am deeply proud to share with my girls and that we should never forget what these women fought for.
It’s difficult for my girls to believe that women in the 1860s weren’t encouraged to attend educational institutions.
Emily Stowe had to go to New York to become a medical doctor because Canadian women weren’t allowed in medical school or any other higher educational institution at that time.
After graduating in 1868 she returned to Canada to illegally work as a doctor in Ontario to support her children and sick husband.
The best part of this story I believe is that in 1876 she started the “Women’s Literacy Club”, to encourage other women to become educated. This is a great example of women supporting other women and now we must continue to support each other.
As a successful woman Emily, reached out to help other women to attain what she had. She was not afraid that they would surpass her or gain greater recognition, or take something from her.
This genuine caring of Emily, and the bold courageous acts of the women during war time, saw women joining together without selfish individual cares, but of care of all women as a whole.
Ways We Can Support Each Other
There are numerous groups that are there to support women in various stages and circumstances.
A friend of mine Laurie Hawkins, just began a community called “Soar” to encourage women in business to support other women in business. She states “SOAR is on a quest to create a powerful community for women to share, learn, grow and simply awaken their souls to all that is possible.” Her groups meet in London, Ontario once per month and her next one is on March 19.
There are also various institutions and groups that support women who are vulnerable, abused or exploited, such as women’s shelters, and in Windsor my friend Kari is involved in a church that operates a recovery centre for women who have been rescued from sex trafficking and addiction.
A group I am a part of, the Women for a Human Canada, support and petition to the government for legislative changes to protect women, as well as, children and animals. I like the threefold commitment of this group to help those who do not have a voice.
It can be overwhelming as we consider what we can do and how we can help.
There is so much need in the world that we often think, “How can I make a difference?”
I believe the simplest way is ongoing participation in the “World Day of Prayer”, not just on that day on the first Friday of March, but every day.
When I say the word prayer I am not promoting any religious affiliation, as I know many of my readers are from a diverse background.
I believe the women who started this day in 1861 out of concern for women and children meant to go beyond any segregation, and unite all women, to act as one.
It unites over 170 countries to the relevant issues affecting women and children.
To me prayer is about intention. Prayer is an “Intentional Directed Pause” that through the power of positive, loving, authentic desire, we connect our hearts with those we know are in need. (Check out the research by HeartMath to see how powerful the heart is in connecting purpose and energy).
Whether they are with us, or across on the other side of the world, we know that when we focus and direct our hearts, minds, and souls in loving kindness, loving our neighbour, connecting to the prana, chi, higher energies, however it is defined or encouraged, we are as one, and share the love of all.
This pause goes beyond our own needs and worries as we reach out to others in prayer and spreading the news of the International Women’s Day, the Women for Humanne Canada, the SOAR community, and other groups that support the vulnerable among us.
We really have come a long way and let’s celebrate that!
I want to thank Sandra Tasoist for gathering 500 women together in Ottawa at the “Women In Business Conference”on International Women’s Day. It brings awareness to how far we have come as women who support other women, our calling to protect the most vulnerable among us, and to celebrate the accomplishments of women who make a difference.
And before I get too many rebuttals, I know it is not just women but many men are also huge advocates of the International Women’s Day and involved in the protection of women, children, and animals as well.
Yet today as the day of women uniting, the International Women’s Day, I bow to all the women who have come before us, who now, and in future, will take action to encourage women in their passions and power.
As Julian of Norwich states “All is well.” Even though not perfect.
At the end of the movie “Mean Girls”, the girls begin to help each other and begin to understand the challenges that each face.
Yet here in the real world it doesn’t always play out that way. But as we continue to celebrate International Women’s Day, and uplift all women in groups like “SOAR”, and quiet our minds to send our best intentions out to others in a pause for prayer, we can make the message behind “Mean Girls” become a reality as we unite as one.
And from another movie I love, the memorable words of the Emperor in the “Emperor’s New Grove” BOOM BABY! It’s time to celebrate! A big hug and high 5 to women everywhere!
Until next time keep your dreams alive, your hopes high, and your outlooks positive!
All the best and many blessings,