If you want to change your life, your outlooks and your results then you need to affect change at the core level, your beliefs.
A Story of Belief: The Pendulum Story
A college student was asked to teach his class on his ability to be creative and drive home a point in a memorable way. He talked for about 20 minutes about the law of the pendulum, which is that a pendulum can never return to a point higher than the point from which it was released.
He demonstrated this with a 3-foot string attached to a child’s toy top and secured it to the top of the blackboard. He pulled the top to one side and made a mark on the blackboard where he let it go. Each time it swung back he made a new mark. It took less than a minute for the top to complete its swinging and come to rest. When he finished the demonstration he asked how many people in the room BELIEVED the law of the pendulum was true. All of his classmates raised their hands, as did his teacher.
The teacher started to walk to the front of the room thinking the class was over. In reality it had just begun. Hanging from the steel ceiling beams in the middle of the room was a large pendulum of 250 pounds of metal weights tied to four strands of 50-pound test parachute cord. He invited the instructor to climb up on a table and sit in a chair with the back of his head against a cement wall. Then he brought the 250 pounds of the metal up to his nose. Holding the huge pendulum just a fraction of an inch from his face, he once again explained the law of the pendulum, “If the law of the pendulum is true, then when I release this mass of metal, it will swing across the room and return short of the release point. You nose will be in no danger.” Then he looked his teacher in the eye and asked “Sir, do you believe this law is true?”
There was a long pause. Huge beads of sweat formed on his upper lip and then weakly he nodded and whispered, “Yes”. He released the pendulum. It made a swishing sound as it arced across the room. At the far end of its swing, it paused momentarily and started back. The teacher literally dived from the table deftly stepping around the still-swinging pendulum, the student asked the class “Does he have faith in the law of the pendulum?” The students unanimously answered “NO!”
When our backs are up against a wall, we say we believe, but when the challenges continue, the struggles keep pushing us, when uncertainty enters our minds do you sometimes allow fear to take over? Do you hide, thinking the pendulum will knock you off the edge to the emptiness below?
Your belief in what can be, must be so strong that you would have the confidence to let the pendulum swing! Even when things are going contrary to what you want. Even if things are going completely wrong to your understanding and preference. You must believe. If you can, with the faith of a mustard seed, you can move mountains.
In the book “How God Changes Your Brain“, Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman state that your belief is the greatest precursor to being able to create new plasticity of the brain that will help you to live a fuller, richer, creative life than you can imagine!
So, what do you believe? Do you believe that right now, your life is awesome regardless of outer circumstances? Can you see the cup half full rather than half empty?
Oh, life isn’t all jelly beans and rainbows I know, but your belief, your response to life is your choice. You are response-able. You are able to choose your response, your actions, what you say, and what you do.
When you adapt the belief that you are in control of everything that happens in your life even if there are circumstances that you cannot control, for example a hurricane goes through, you strengthen your mental fortitude. You certainly don’t have enormous control over that but you can control how you respond to it. I’m not suggesting you laugh and smile when the hurricane has blown away your home! I am however, suggesting that as the shock settles, as time heals, you can accelerate this healing by adopting an inner belief, an internal locus of control.
An internal locus of control means we take responsibility for what happens in our lives and we believe that we control what happens in the circumstances we live in. When you have a strong internal locus of control you take responsibility of how you act.
If we have an external locus of control we don’t take responsibility for our lives. We are always blaming others for our circumstances and pointing the finger.
This is important because the locus of control has an effect on our self-image and our self-image will align with our income, with our relationships, with our work, and throughout our lives. To develop that positive and powerful self-image that resonates with your goals and dreams you need to develop an internal locus of control.
You will feel positive about yourself and your ability to reach your goal, control your sense of overwhelm or anxiety, and feel in control of your circumstances.
Remember, you can’t control how people will respond but you can control how you respond. Not all circumstances are in your control, but you can control how you respond and what you truly believe.
Pause, take a breath (APB), build the internal locus of control, believe in yourself, and feel a positive and empowered response by taking responsibility for your beliefs and what has happened, and how you react.
Today remember to pause in awareness and breathe before jumping to conclusions, taking actions, and enhance your relationships, workplace, and life … one pause at a time!